Saturday, June 9, 2012

My girl from Austria.....will be home soon!

Let the countdown begin!!!


Miss Sarah Elizabeth will be returning to her family, twenty five days from today!

So soon!

She has been in northwest Austria since early August, 2011,
 as a Rotary Youth Exchange student.

We have missed her immensely......
.....we are thrilled for the experiences she has received....
.........and we are ecstatic that she returns to us soon!

The following photos are "stolen" from her Facebook postings.



One of my favorites......




She is the girl with the cap on her head.....


She is the girl with the red scarf around her neck.....



She is the girl with the green scarf around her neck....


My princess in red....doing the dishes......just like we knew she would.  :)


I think you can figure out which one is Sarah?

Celebrating an Austrian holiday....

Sarah & her new friend


Yikes!  That is high!


Hiking girl

Austria

"Oh, yeah?"

Austria

The girl in the purple scarf....




"And these are Austrian rocks...."



Perfect place for an Austrian picnic! 
This family has been an incredible blessing to Sarah......
.....and I am sure she has been a blessing to them as well.


Celebrating her 19th birthday with her second host parents........
...whom she loves dearly. 
It was her host mom's birthday the day before........
...the toast was made just after midnight on Sarah's birthday.  :)


And now........we wait.....tick tock, tick tock, tick tock......
......turning the pages of the daily calendar


 Blessings,


                         Chari


Thursday, June 7, 2012

To Restore All Things in Christ

So it has been almost two weeks -- has it really been that long! -- since I wrote my last planning post.  I did not mean the interim to be so long but a few things happened.


(the photos are from my morning walk)




 Remember how I was talking about how St Martha was teaching me that there is One Needful Thing, and not to get scattered and divided. 

Now part of the art of education (and organizing, indeed) is the art of dividing.  Is it not so?    We divide into subjects and then the subjects are divided into grade or developmental levels, and then the subjects are sometimes divided into sub-subjects, as when Language Arts becomes vocabulary/grammar/spelling/phonics/reading.

Then when we are homeschool planning, we might even organize our organizing, by perhaps splitting the year into months, or our role into different sections like Keeping House, Family, Child Training, or whatever else we are doing in our lives. 



In a way these compartments are silly, because life and learning itself aren't divided up that way.  A child immersed in a book about history isn't checking items off his list (Ah, I covered vocabulary and virtue and Life in the Middle Ages and of course, general reading comprehension and if I tell my Mom about it, verbal expression as well).   And it's a good thing he's not thinking that way.  If he is, the totality of his education is somewhat at risk.

When I am cleaning the kitchen, and my kids are helping, I am my single self, both keeping house and mothering my children and perhaps making the world a slightly less dirty place to live in.    And perhaps sanctifying myself through my duties, if I'm blessed enough.   But if I make my endeavors be servant to these divisions, I become scattered, overwhelmed, and my role is at risk. 

If I make myself the servant of divisions in the homeschool, whether of skill or content, I have a fragmented homeschool (which is when I stop and go back to unschooling to restore our integration).



Yet in another way, division (making distinctions) is almost what learning is all about.   A baby sees contrasting dark and pale and eventually resolves the forms into the face of his mother and then his father and siblings (so I am told, because I don't remember it myself, but I think I have seen it in the wondering eyes of my own infants).    Later on he may call everything furry on four legs "kitty" but eventually he learns the difference between a dog and a cat and maybe learns to love a litter of kitties in his garage (if he is one of Chari's kids) and names them and knows their personalities.

In the same way, when I'm doing things, I find it very helpful to divide... to emphasize different things at different times.   It is the very nature of any project to be done one step at a time, and that is a division.

The Jesuits always said, "Divide and conquer!" which allowed them to do great things in the service of God.  But of course, it was all about God:  "Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam!" " All for the greater glory of God!" was what they also said.   The division was in the service of the conquering, which would add up to Restoring All Things in Christ. 



I think ever since I've started homeschooling -- even before that, when I was growing up learning -- I have had trouble with the necessity of dividing and dividing yet again, and yet the danger of  dividing something up into scattered pieces.

Jesus did not reprimand Martha for having a list of discrete tasks to get done.   He told her gently that she was missing the point, the way the scattered bits are really One Thing. 

So that is where I got stuck in my planning series, because I really don't want planning to become scattered bits everywhere, and I wouldn't want those who might read my posts to think that either.    Since I set out to writing my planning posts to encourage others and share ideas, I didn't want to write out of a state of complexity.  There is enough complexity in the world and planning your homeschooling is really as simple as what Jesus told Martha!  All the rest is, or ought to be, in service of Him and His plans.   I need that posted on my computer screen. 

Rather than just keep going I decided to pause and pray.  I also got rather busy because I started our summer term and even though it is very lowkey, altering my own habits always requires lots of focus.




Then providentially the Holy Ghost led Chari to start posting every day == hooray! 

Now I have a few ideas for how to continue.   But I want to devote a whole post to this aspect because it is so KEY to what I always forget during busy seasons, or at least don't dwell on enough.. I am telling this to myself most of all:


  • Every endeavour starts, continues and ends in prayer, or it's in vain. 
  • What system you use for planning does not matter all that much.   It's in service to your purpose, which is the important part of the whole thing.
  • The important division is:  Preparation Action Conclusion (the motto of St Maximilian Kolbe).  You can see my Kolbe Academy roots are showing, and indeed their philosophy informs practically everything I do in my homeschool, in one way or another.


Lovely Prayer to the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus

Invocations to the Heart of Jesus

Heart of Jesus in the Eucharist, I adore Thee.
Sweet Companion of our exile, I adore Thee.
Eucharistic Heart of Jesus, I adore Thee.
Heart solitary, Heart humiliated, I adore Thee.
Heart abandoned, Heart forgotten, I adore Thee.
Heart despised, Heart outraged, I adore Thee.
Heart ignored by men, I adore Thee.
Heart, Lover of our hearts, I adore Thee.
Heart pleading for love, I adore Thee.
Heart patient in waiting for us, I adore Thee.
Heart eager to hear our prayers, I adore Thee.
Heart desiring that we should pray to Thee, I adore Thee.
Heart, Source of fresh graces, I adore Thee.
Heart silent, desiring to speak to souls, I adore Thee.
Heart, sweet Refuge of the hidden life, I adore Thee.
Heart, Teacher of the secrets of union with God, I adore Thee.
Heart of Him Who sleeps, yet ever watches, I adore Thee.

Eucharistic Heart of Jesus, have mercy on us.

Jesus Victim, I wish to comfort Thee; I unite myself to Thee; I offer myself in union with Thee. I count myself as nothing before Thee;I desire to forget myself in order to think of Thee, to be forgotten and despised for love of Thee, not to be understood, not to be loved, except by Thee. I will hold my peace that I may listen to Thee; I will forsake myself that I may lose myself in Thee.

Grant that I may quench Thy thirst for my salvation, Thy burning thirst for my sanctification, and that, being purified, I may bestow on Thee a pure and true love. I would no longer weary Thine expectations; take me, I give myself to Thee. I entrust to Thee all my actions---my mind that Thou mayest enlighten it, my heart that Thou mayest direct it, my will that Thou mayest establish it, my misery that Thou mayest relieve it, my soul and my body that Thou mayest feed them.

Eucharistic Heart of my Jesus, Whose Blood is the life of my soul, may it be no longer I who live, but Thou alone Who livest in me. Amen.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

We've Set a Date! Two Dates, In Fact!

I am pleased to say we have reserved the dates on the calendar!





     Willa and I are getting together in mid-June to spend about a week together.  It will just be the little boys and the moms.  All of the older children have other places to be.  This really will be an interesting time for us....having only five kids between us.  This visit will be our (mostly) annual (for the last five years) time of retreat.  We usually plan our next year of homeschooling together, often do a "book" or "chapter" study........and now that we blog together.....there will be some blogging time.  Yes.





       We are going to try to work hard to get a little nature study in with the boys. They usually play all.day.long.....and we just go with it. It is hard to interrupt their play for outings. We enjoy our own focused time, too. That makes it twice as hard to get out. I have some good trails that I really think Aidan is going to enjoy.


      I know I need this.  It will be such a blessing for us to have this time.





And then.........







.......In July, I will have all six of my children home....and Willa will come back to visit with as many of her kids as can come.  For another week!  There will be dancing, hiking, tea time..... lots of conversations....and no doubt, movies. The kids are really looking forward to this.  I am , too.


     



 Just thought I would share..............my joy.


















Spring Blessings,

                              Chari


PS:  I just realized:  Willa will be here in only 12 days!  I have a lot to get done!  I might need a list!

(All pictures of Ryan & Bryan kids are from the past......)









Monday, June 4, 2012

What's on my Bedside Table -- Willa

Chari choosing C as her Book Letter of the month gives me a chance to share what's on my bedside table this month:




Why am I reading a calculus book?  It goes back to my math dilemma with Kieron.    I was praying about what to do with him in math the next couple of years.   I think that is resolved now, but while I was hunting, I found the Life of Fred series mentioned several times on the Well Trained Mind board.  

For some reason I had the impression it was Math Lite, but the feedback on the board made me curious enough to go look at the website, and I read some of the samples, and got sort of pulled in.   I liked the style of the books and the variety of topics, and from all I read the math is sound.  

I went and checked our library system, and the only LOF books there were Statistics and Calculus.  Since my daughter is doing calculus in college next year, and I never took calculus in high school or college, I thought that if I checked out LOF Calculus I could get an idea of how the series worked AND a glimpse into the nature of calculus at the same time.  Two birds with one stone. 

The first chapter I tried to do all the study problems, but I think that I will have to keep the book checked out forever if I do that, so I'm just going to start reading it for fun/

As for the dilemma with Kieron, I think it came about because I just didn't want to deal with high school math this year.  I was trying to find a way to outsource it that wouldn't break the bank.   After I talked about it with him, though, I decided to just go ahead and continue with Jacob's Geometry which he started last year but laid aside when things got busy.     We are going to resume that in the fall. 

This summer he is using a college basic math type book called Mathematics Made Simple  that I had around the house from when his older brother used it.  It's not a good book to introduce concepts, and the answer key has lots of errors, but it gives me a way to go through basic topics with him and see if he has any major gaps.   

After poring through the LOF series for a long time and flinching at the price I decided that I would hold off on them for now.   I am seriously thinking of getting the Middle School set for Paddy once he gets his basic arithmetic down.   Not so much as his primary text, but as a supplement.    Downside is the price, upside is that the materials seem to maintain their price so I could probably resell after he is past that stage.

Now back to reading about calculus!  (Aren't you glad the CHEMISTRY book hasn't arrived yet?  That starts with C too)

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Let the Gardening Begin!

We have put a garden in here at Our Hearts' Haven for so many years.....I almost don't remember when we did not have one. I am pretty sure we only had three children when we started. That first year everything was a bit crude, having done it all by hand.....including tilling the earth. Thank God for strong husbands. And I was very green.....no pun intended. It was my first garden, ever........for this city-raised girl. There are those who make fun of me for not having a green thumb. My thumb is not black....but it may well be barely green. I can grow things in the garden....but I cannot really keep a house plant alive....for very long anyway.

Now we have evolved into a "planned garden."
I keep a notebook every year.....and take note of what is planted where. I used to do it as I went.......the last few years, I take my seeds and organize the rows on paper, and label each seed packet with its row number. Things go mush more smoothly now. With a handful of us, we can get the garden planted in less than two hours. Nice.




MAY 2nd
Day One
The rows......before we planted
...the ten year old helps.....he likes the big squash seeds...
.....the 21 year old and the 17 year old.......
(oh, wait, she was still 16 years old, her birthday was not for another three days!)


.....the 15 year old.......
...the garden looking toward the chicken coop.....


.....what the dirt looks like after a chicken welcomes herself into the garden....
......messes up our newly planted rows.....grrrrrrr
.....the radishes pop up in days......of course!
.......and this is where will be spending a good part of our days in the next three months.....
Do you grow a garden every year?


Blessings in the Month of the Most Sacred Heart,
                                                                  Chari

Saturday, June 2, 2012

The Bedside Table Reading Challenge: June 2012

The Bedside Table Reading Challenge of 2012





Who is still with me? Who wants to join with us this month?


The letter for June 2012 is:




The book on my "bedside table" that I will read for this month is.........


84, Charing Cross Road

by
Helene Hanff

File:84 charing cross first.jpg



I think this is a recent addition to my Bedside Table shelf.  I picked it because it is short read....I expect to be busy this month and I have not finished the book from last month.  I placed it on my shelf because I loved the movie.  I want to see it again.  I just love Anythony Hopkins. 
 I love literature......this movie works for me.  :)


+++++++++



If you have not finished the previous month's book....keep plugging away and do the next letter when you are done....or skip a letter altogther.



Post this on your blog, if you have one........and/or leave a comment on this post, stating that you are joining in.....and what book you have chosen for this month. Please post a picture of your stack!

When you are finished reading....share a few thoughts about the book, if you wish. I will post a new letter each month.....probably in the last week of the month.......

Are you in??? Please join me! Join in anytime.......

Please share with other bibliophiles......


Reading Blessings,

Chari

If you like to read in list form.......instead of conversational........
To join:

  • Post the title and the picture above on your blog post.
  • Pick the book from your stack that starts with that month's letter.
  • Pick alphabetically if you have more than one with that letter.
  • Pick up-the-alphabet if you do not have any with the chosen letter.
  • List your book choice.
  • Post a link to your post in our comments.
  • Share your thoughts about the book after reading the book, if you desire.

Our Littles

Last September, Willa and I took the boys to see a friend and then a field trip to visit this famous bridge.....well, it is famous locally and among bridge architects.  :)


We just had our three youngest boys.....

Aidan is the tallest, at 12.5 years, Malachy is the second tallest and almost ten years old, and the smallest is Patrick, or Paddy, at almost 9 years old.


Malachy is mine, and the other two are Willa's.  I have a feeling the next few years many of our pictures together will be just of these three boys, what with the other kids growing up and moving on in life........






I had intended to add these pictures to Aidan's birthday post.........but when I realized that I had forgotten, I also realized that there was no way these pictures could fit on that crowded page!


Blessings from the Ryans and the Bryans

Happy Birthday to My Little Friend Aidan!

Really, it is all because of Aidan that Willa and I became such close friends so fast.  And his birthday is not only a celebration of his life, but of our friendship.  Having "met" online about two months before he was born, and speaking on the phone the first time a few weeks after he was born, his birthday always marks another year of friendship for ourselves and our families. 
A tremendous blessing!






to

Aidan!!!!!





I hope you have a beautiful day, my friend! 

 I am looking forward to seeing you soon!

Enjoy these videos!

Which one is your favorite?












Here is a Happy birthday from my chickens!  Come see them soon!



















This one is my favorite!








Saint Aidan!







With love and friendship and birthday prayers,

                                                          
                                                                     the Bryans

PS <wicked laugh>  I have a feeling that these videos are going to make Willa crazy........haha!

Friday, June 1, 2012

Happy is the Husband.......the Joy of Serving, For the Month of June

While I was looking for a specific post at the Happyisthehusband Yahoo group, I came across this email post from June of 2006:

A Growing Marriage - May 12, 2006 - The Joy of Serving


Dr. Chapman makes this quote in one of his emails this month:


"Service is a mark of greatness.
Why not apply this truth to your marriage?
Ask God to bring to your mind,
one act of service you can do for your spouse each day.
Then, do it as though you were doing it for Jesus.
You will learn the joy of service. "

It made me think about something........


What do you all think about using the month of June, to do one act of service each day for our spouse, in honor of the month of the Sacred Heart? We could offer it up in reparation to the Sacred heart for all of the sins against marriage. And, especially for any special intentions for our own marriage.

Some of us could list what we do..............just a few each day, it might inspire the others.


Even if it were something we were going to do anyway, like iron his work shirts, we could do it with a prayerful purpose in mind.



I don't remember sending this post, what, SIX?? years ago???  But, I was thrilled to find it.

It is such a clever idea.  :)  I really think I need a focus like that right now.  I have already started.....I am chipping away at hot spots.

The hope chest in my room has been cleared off for days. 





Got two cupboards in my kitchen reduced and organized.  Everything fits now! 







My own spouse likes everything decluttered and efficient.  The poor guy married me, an excellent organizer, but not the best manager.  My plan is to make headway in clearing out clutter....even if it is fifteen minutes at a time. 


I have a bunch of "hand-me-down" stuff on my porch.....I think I will try to get at least one thing put away each day.  That will be a good start.  I will offer it up for him.


Another way to approach this:  ask your husband each morning, or the evening before, what one thing he would like for you to do for him this day.  My friend has recently placed a white board and has told her husband, if it is not written down on the board....she will not remember to get it done.  Since implementing the white board, she says after he leaves for work, the family takes care of that one task first thing in the order of their day.   He is a much more satsified man.  She appreciates that.






What say you?  Want to find Joy In Serving?  Where will you start?

Blessings,


             Chari





Following A Little Way of Homeschooling......


      Turns out that my spiritual reading a few mornings ago was also a homeschooling book. I did not intend to pick it up that day, or even this week, or month. I just knew that I had a hot cup of tea, some sunshine, quiet time because everyone was still sleeping and an urgent need to improve my spiritual reading plan.





      It was just sitting in a little stack on my shelf of Catholic books;  I knew I needed to look through this book eventually. My dearest friend, and co-author of this blog, had a chapter in it. That was my only motivation. I could not bring myself to find more. I admit....it was almost a burden to have to read it.


      I have had this book in my possession at least since September, when Willa lent her extra copy to me, but it might be longer.  I cannot remember. I just never felt inspired to read it, until a few days ago, which also happened to be the Feast of Pentecost. I have homeschooled for over a decade, and have read so much that one more book on the topic of homeschooling felt like overload. In addition, with this last year feeling like one of my most dismal years of homeschooling yet, I certainly did not want to read about anyone else's successful experiences. Too depressing a thought.


     I am so tired and feeling sad about my lost year......when I went from unschooling by default (the phrase I use to describe our method of homeschooling) to nonschooling.....that I had no room for anything to inspire me. I cannot even begin to put out the energy needed to plan for next year.
It is actually mildy heartbreaking for me to read Willa's planning posts. I can't do that now (plan). And reading the comments from those who are inspired by her posts is a little distressing as well..... I want to be inspired. I just have no where to go right now with the inspiration.

      It could be knowing my fifth child will be starting with the independent study part of the local high school, so he can play the sports he thrives on so much and realizing I will not have much control over what  he is learning....... it certainly will not be literature-based (he is okay with this...it is my hang-up....and rightly so, I think :) )......but he will still be learning at home, with THEIR deadlines looming over our head. 


     So, guided by the Holy Ghost, I pick up the book, on His Great Feast Day. 


     In my natural reading style, I found myself following the advice of Mortimer J. Adler,  author of How to Read A Book: using the Second Level of Reading, known as Inspectional Reading.  I check out the front cover, back cover, contents, dedications.....and there, I see, not only one dear friend, but many dear friends. Somehow, I missed that so many of my in-real-life (or long-time Internet) acquaintances were co-authors. a very pleasant surprise indeed.


     I realized that the stories of these ladies would not be something foreign to me.  I have know almost all of them for at least ten years.  I have chatted with them.... on the computer, the phone, and some in real life.  I have shared their life journeys as well as their homeschool journeys. I have prayed for them, laughed with them, discussed with them.....cried with them.  When I read their words, I will know them.  I have been reading their words for a decade.  these people will be REAL, to me. I love that. It will be such a comfort.


     I realized, while reading the Foreward and Introduction of A Little Way of Homeschooling, that God most definitely had words within this book, just for me, at just this moment. How grateful I felt.


Maybe, just maybe......... And with sincere hope, I just might find in these pages the inspiration I need to move more cheerfully forward in our twentieth year of homeschooling.


This is not about homeschooling for me today, it is about hope.


Blessings,

                  Chari


PS  I will try to write various notes as I read through the book.  I will not be leading a fancy book discussion, but if anyone wants to follow along reading their own copy........I would like that.  Let me know if you are interested. I will not be reading it very fast.  I will try to write my thoughts with each reading. I would love to share with you.  Willa.......you, too!